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Does Your Divorce Make You Feel Angry?

When one is going through a divorce it is very common to feel anger. According to psychologist and author Elizabeth Kubler Ross, anger is one of the 5 emotional stages of grief. They are shock, denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance. Today I want to talk about anger and its power to consume us, if allowed. Anger is a universal experience, and it can cause us to lose sight of a situation. It has the ability to consume us. I know! At the beginning of my divorce, I was angry as hell. My anger was my biggest tormentor. I even took to social media to try to shame my ex. I...

What is a Parenting Plan?

Making this new transition (your divorce) harmonious and amicable will help to protect your child against emotional damage that can easily be inflicted during a divorce. We can become so consumed by our own emotions that our child’s emotional state is overlooked. Always remember that this is a very difficult time for your child, too. Their whole little world has been ripped apart, just as yours has. Ensuring that the child does not feel abandoned by either parent helps them to remain feeling secure within the family. After all, the child didn’t ask for this, so learning that Mom and Dad don’t want to live together any longer can feel...

The Prenup

Alright. So, do you know the Kanye West lyrics: “ We want prenup, we want prenup. It’s something that you need to have coz when she leaves your a**, she’s gonna leave with half.” Ever wonder what the heck he was singing about? Well, here’s what: If you are already going through a divorce, your prenup(prenuptial agreement) would, most likely, already be in place. This is a contract that is signed before you get married. It’s usually put in place by the person who has the most money in order to protect their estate in the event of the marriage failing.The party entering the marriage with no assets will be...

Diamonds Are Forever

When do we lay that wedding ring to rest? I’m not too sure how I feel about this one. I stopped wearing mine nine months into our separation. I contemplated chopping my whole finger off – not because I self-mutilate, but because I couldn’t think why I would ever need a wedding ring finger again. That’s a bit extreme, I know, but desperate times call for desperate measures. What if someone very sneaky and manipulative entered my life and I found myself in a position where I actually agreed to get married again?The horror! So, to ensure that couldn’t happen, I thought: “Let me just dispose of this silly old...

Five Of The Letters In Depressing make Dress

Are you one of those extremely mature people who can move on gracefully with your life while keeping all of the old memorabilia from your past relationships? If so, well done. Really and truly, I take my hat off to you. But if it has been a bad divorce (ahem), then your knee-jerk reaction might be to douse everything in petrol and watch it burn (that is if you have some tendencies towards arson) Or, on a smaller scale, you may be tempted to build a little fire and chuck everything into it. But destroying all of your memories is just plain silly. You should probably keep your photos, especially...

Focusing On Your Child

Once you and your spouse have made the decision that divorce is now the way forward, making this new transition harmonious and amicable will help to protect your child against emotional damage that can easily be inflicted during a divorce. We can become so consumed by our own emotions that our child’s emotional state is overlooked. Always remember that this is a very difficult time for your child, too. Their whole little world has been ripped apart, just as yours has. Ensuring that the child does not feel abandoned by either parent helps them to remain secure within the family. After all, the child didn’t ask for this, so learning...

Our Children, Our Everything

I suffered a miscarriage in 2011. I lost my baby at 12 weeks. It was heartbreaking and a very difficult experience to explain to someone who hasn’t gone through it. It’s a strange feeling to mourn the loss of someone you’ve never met or held. I stood in the bathroom of my parents’ home, waiting for the line to appear. There it was. I was two to three weeks pregnant. I began to bond with that little being immediately. I imagined what he or she might look like; thought of what I might call him/ her; and rubbed my tummy affectionately, wearing that I’ve-got-a-secret smile. As much as your partner...

Quick Tips – When It Comes To Your Attorney

If you have chosen to go down the route of hiring an attorney, it is important to know where you stand with them. It is important to know that it is a long and expensive journey. Here are a few facts to consider when looking at the relationship between you and your attorney:   1) When you enter into a legal contract with your attorney (when you retain them), he/ she is legally bound to keep every conversation between you confidential. 2)  You are not your attorney’s only client, so don’t call them every day expecting them to be thinking about your case, or expect them to constantly have time...