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Meeting New Friends

When you go through a divorce and you find yourself faced with the need to build a new support group, it can be a pretty scary thing. When you have children and responsibilities, it can seem like you will never find the time to go out and meet new people and even if you did, where would you begin? It isn’t like school anymore. Adults can be closed off to other strangers. People have busy lives and generally don’t look to make new friends so often at our age. Well, I’m here to remind you, divorce is happening everywhere in South Africa. There are a lot of people going through...

Loss of Friendships in Divorce

A by-product of divorce is nearly always the loss of friendships. When I moved to South Africa, I didn’t have a single friend in this country, other than my now ex-husband. At the time, he seemed more than enough. Romeo, o’ Romeo. I figured that once I had him in my life, I would be A-Okay, and I was confident that I would eventually build my own little circle of friends. You see, that was the plan, but once I settled into South African life, I discovered quite quickly that my ex travelled in a very exclusive little clique. Because the opportunity didn’t really present itself for me to make...