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Acceptance (Stage 5)

Acceptance is the last emotional stage that we go through during a divorce. When all of the hurt and pain finally go away (and it will) you’ll begin to accept that your marriage didn’t work, but that you are now ready to move on with the rest of your life, taking with you the lessons you’ve learned along the way. At the beginning of a divorce, it’s very hard to imagine the day that you’ll finally be at peace with what has happened to your life, but time really and truly does heal. Good old ‘Father Time’  has his arms around us all. You’ve just got to have faith. It...

Diamonds Are Forever

When do we lay that wedding ring to rest? I’m not too sure how I feel about this one. I stopped wearing mine nine months into our separation. I contemplated chopping my whole finger off – not because I self-mutilate, but because I couldn’t think why I would ever need a wedding ring finger again. That’s a bit extreme, I know, but desperate times call for desperate measures. What if someone very sneaky and manipulative entered my life and I found myself in a position where I actually agreed to get married again?The horror! So, to ensure that couldn’t happen, I thought: “Let me just dispose of this silly old...

Five Of The Letters In Depressing make Dress

Are you one of those extremely mature people who can move on gracefully with your life while keeping all of the old memorabilia from your past relationships? If so, well done. Really and truly, I take my hat off to you. But if it has been a bad divorce (ahem), then your knee-jerk reaction might be to douse everything in petrol and watch it burn (that is if you have some tendencies towards arson) Or, on a smaller scale, you may be tempted to build a little fire and chuck everything into it. But destroying all of your memories is just plain silly. You should probably keep your photos, especially...

Are You Sure You’re Sure?

Morgan Deane 23 January 2017

Are you willing to listen and learn in your marriage or relationship? Do you understand the true significance of opening your ears and eyes? Nobody is perfect and there isn’t anybody who has all the answers. There is no one who can afford to just speak but never listen. Listen to what your partner is saying to you, and if he/ she isn’t speaking, then watch their body language. What is it saying to you? Learning to read your partner can help a relationship stay on track. One can become so consumed by what “I want, need and deserve”. A relationship should contain mutual respect on both sides. I guess...