If you have chosen to go down the route of hiring an attorney, it is important to know where you stand with them. It is important to know that it is a long and expensive journey.
Here are a few facts to consider when looking at the relationship between you and your attorney:
1) When you enter into a legal contract with your attorney (when you retain them), he/ she is legally bound to keep every conversation between you confidential.
2) You are not your attorney’s only client, so don’t call them every day expecting them to be thinking about your case, or expect them to constantly have time for you. Chances are that at any given time, they are representing at least a dozen other people in your exact same situation. When you’re going through a divorce, it may be absolutely all that you can think about most days, but for your attorney, it’s their job.
3) If your attorney gives you advice, you really should take it, unless you have a valid reason not to do. You’re paying them all of that money because that is their profession. They’ve studied the books and handled the cases.
4) I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Try to sort out the parenting plan between you and your spouse without getting your attorneys involved. It’s as tedious and time-consuming for them as it is unnecessarily wasteful for you. They don’t want to have to deal with it as much as you don’t want to have to pay them to spend time on the matter.
5) Remember that although your attorney may seem like your best friend, you will pay for every second of that friendship. You will pay for every meeting, every phone call, every email and every SMS. In this world – the legal world, you will get nothing for free. My advice to you is if you can avoid meetings at all then do. They usually happen in blocks of one hour and that can be extremely expensive. If you can send an email then do so and a paper trail is better than having a string of meetings where you can become overwhelmed with information.
Here’s a quote that’s also good to bear in mind :
“Divorce lawyers stoke anger and fear into their clients, knowing that as long as the conflicts remain unresolved, the revenue stream will keep flowing ” ( Craig Ferguson )